Friday, October 29, 2010

Is it really Friday?

Boy, did I think that today would never end!  Am I glad that this 60 hr work week is finally over!  I feel both tired and energized at the same time. 

John and I are watching a wonderful movie, Dave with Kevin Kline and Sigourney Weaver.

It is a feel-good comedy where Kevin Kline, as the American President's look-alike, has to take his place when the real President gets seriously ill.

If you get a chance, you should definitely see it! 

I am not yet sure what our plans are for this weekend, if I don't sleep tomorrow away, I will let you know what we are up to!

I am keeping my fingers crossed that Diane and I might get some shopping in on Sunday!

I hope you enjoy your weekend and get some rest, at least I hope I get some rest.

Wednesday, October 27, 2010

Happy Birthday to my husband John!



A Birthday letter to my husband:

Happy Birthday, Sweetheart! 

These last sixteen years have been more wonderful than I could have ever dreamed. You are everything that I ever hoped for in a husband. You fill my days with laughter and my nights with tenderness. You bring comfort to me when I'm sad. You have always supported me in everything I've done. You are my strength, my rock. I know that when life gets crazy, you will always be there to "right the ship." You are not only my husband but you are also my best friend. You are the one person who knows my deepest hopes, dreams, and desires. You know all my crazy quirks, and you love me anyway.
Each and every day with you is special and precious to me.  I cannot imagine a life without you. You complete me in a way that no one else ever could.

Happy Birthday John, I will love you forever!


Sunday, October 24, 2010

Procrastination Update

It is getting close to bedtime and tomorrow is the start of another work week.  I am sitting here wondering where my weekend has gone.  Talk about procrastination - I don't think I accomplished anything I wanted to do this weekend.
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I am going to pull out the To Do list this week and get busy! 
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Don't get me wrong, I have loved being a couch potato this weekend, I just feel like I have tons of things left to do.
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I know that I always function better with a list.  This is something that I have written about before - here.  I know that I am much less prone to procrastination with a list.  I will be sure to update you as to how the list is working for me this week.

What helps you overcome procrastination?  I would love to hear your ideas!


Thursday, October 21, 2010

Why do we Procrastinate?

Everyone procrastinates.  We put things off for numerous reasons, it is part of being human. 

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So, how do we know when our procrastination is becoming a real problem?  The easiest way to determine if it is a real problem is to assess the consequences.  There can be both external and internal consequences; external could be if you did not receive a scheduled raise due to frequently missing deadlines and internal could be a feeling of anxiousness for not completing items.  If I procrastinate making my bed in the mornings, and it does not hurt anyone including myself, who cares?  When my procrastination has me anxious and worried, it is time to look for a solution.

Procrastination is actually nothing more than a very bad habit.  It is actually a habit that can be easily overcome if we understand the specific origin of this habit. 

Here are several reasons why we procrastinate.
  1. Because we are afraid.  (Fear of failure, fear of success, fear of loosing autonomy, fear of being alone and fear of attachment)
  2. Because we expect ourselves to be perfect.
  3. Because we do not like what we are doing.
  4. Because we are just too busy.
  5. Because it works.  (When we are successful in spite of our procrastination, we tend to continue the behavior)
How do we overcome procrastination?
  1. Find out how you procrastinate.
  2. Create a more productive environment.
  3. Challenge the myths to overcome the habit.
  4. Break down the project into the smallest possible items.
  5. Choose a new attitude.
  6. Ask for help when needed.
  7. Get unblocked.
  8. Make yourself accountable.
  9. Leave your project and in sight.
  10. Evaluate your  strengths and weaknesses.
  11. Hone your skills.
  12. Learn how to tell time.
  13. Make a un-schedule.
  14. Set a time limit.
  15. Be realistic about how long the project will take.
First, explore the reasons why you procrastination and experiment with ways to work differently.  Do not expect immediate change, the procrastination habit took a long time to form and it will not change overnight.  Slowly but surly you will change the habit for the positive.  If you stop punishing yourself when you procrastinate and start rewarding yourself for your small successes, you will eventually develop brand new non procrastinating habits.

Good Luck!


Burka, Jane B. and Lenora M. Yuen. Procrastination: Why You Do It, What to Do About It. Reading, MA: Addison-Wesley Publ. Co., 1983.
Ellis, Albert, and William J. Overcoming Procrastination. New York: Signet Books, 1977.


Wednesday, October 20, 2010

What I am currently reading

I have been reading much more lately, in part due to my new digital reader that I wrote about here.

I have found a series of mystery books, the J. P. Beaumont Series, by J. A. Jance that I have just started for some much-needed light reading.  More information on J. A. Jance can be found at      

There are 19 books in the J. P. Beaumont Series

  1. Fire an Ice, Hardcover, William Morrow, 2009, ISBN 0-061-23922-4
  2. Justice Denied, Paper, Harper Suspense, 2008 ISBN 978-0-06-054093-7
  3. Long Time Gone, Papere Avon, 2006 ISBN 0-380-724359 PB
  4. Partner in Crime, Paper, Avon, 2003 ISBN 0-380-80470-0
  5. Birds of Prey, Paper, Avon, 2002 ISBN 0-380-71654-2
  6. Breach of Duty, Paper, Avon, 2000 ISBN 0-380-71483-X
  7. Name Withheld, Paper, Avon, 1997 ISBN 0-380-71842-1
  8. Lying in Wait, Paper, Avon, 1995 ISBN 0-380-71841-3
  9. Failure to Appear, Paper, Avon, 1994 ISBN 0-380-75839-3
  10. Without Due Process, Paper., Avon, 1993 ISBN 0-380-75837-7
  11. Payment in Kind, Avon, 1991. ISBN 0-380-75836-9
  12. Minor in Possession, Avon, 1990. ISBN 0-380-75546-7
  13. Dismissed with Prejudice, Avon, 1989. ISBN 0-380-75547-5
  14. A More Perfect Union, Avon, 1988. ISBN 0-380-75413-4
  15. Improbable Cause, Avon, 1987. ISBN 0-380-75412-6
  16. Taking the Fifth, Avon, 1987. ISBN 0-380-75139-9
  17. Trial by Fury, Avon, 1986. ISBN 0-380-75138-0
  18. Injustice for All, Avon, 1986. ISBN 0-360-89641-9
  19. Until Proven Guilty, Avon, 1985. ISBN 0-380-89638-9

So far I have read 4 of her books and really enjoy them.  I think the only problem I have had with them is not wanting to put the book down and go to sleep when I read one of her books at bedtime.

I hope you enjoy her books as much as I have!

Are you reading anything interesting?  I would love to know!


Monday, October 18, 2010

Why do I blog?

I have been asked by several people recently about why I blog. 

This is something I had to think about ~ mainly because why I started blogging and why I have continued to blog are two different things. 

Here is my attempt to share with you why it is that I blog. 

     1.  First and foremost, I blog for fun.
     2.  It improves my writing skills.  I am great at writing business proposals and financial and procedural policies, but by blogging it helps with my impromptu writing skills.
     3.  As a major list writer, blogging actually gives me another outlet for getting my ideas written down.
     4.  To keep my friends and family updated on the daily activities of the Barker household.
     5.  I enjoy working with HTML code and learning about new things.
     6.  Blogging helps me to be more informed about social networking for both business and personal use.
     7.  I may inspire someone to be kinder, we are always in need of more kindness in this world.
     8.  It is a wonderful outlet to share items that I find interesting.

I would love to know:

Why do you blog?   
Why do you read blogs?


Sunday, October 17, 2010

Productive and Restful Weekend!

The weekend is almost over, but it has been a great one! 

We have not been home much this weekend - but I was able to get in a nap on Saturday.

Friday I got to go out to eat with my BFF at our regular spot!  It is always great to spend time with Diane!

Saturday was spent getting the yard work done before it gets too cold outside.  It is predicted to get down in the low 20's tonight - brrrr.

And today, shopping!  I got some new work shoes - who would have figured that I would loose weight in my feet?  Speaking of weight loss - 1 more pound lost this week.  Hoping for a larger loss next weekend - keep your fingers crossed!

Now I am getting ready to call my Aunt and Uncle in North Carolina.  I love checking in with family! 

Have a great week!


Thursday, October 14, 2010

Cute Fall Greeting from Aunt Chris!

 I got this today from my Aunt Chris - just wanted to share. 

Happy Fall ~  Debbie 

From one pumpkin to another!!!!!!!
A woman was asked by a coworker,
'What is it like to be a Christian?'
The coworker replied, 'It is like being a pumpkin.' 

God picks you from the patch, brings you in,
and washes all the dirt off of you. 

Then He cuts off the top and scoops out all the yucky stuff.

He removes the seeds of doubt, hate, and greed.

Then He carves you a new smiling face and
puts His light inside of you to shine for all the world to see.'


Wednesday, October 13, 2010

Fall is definitely here!

 There is a crispness to the air.  Not just cool but a feeling in the air that only comes in the fall.  It reminds me of apple picking and football games, it makes me want to start a pot of soup and stay in my PJ's all day. 

The only thing that I truly dislike about the fall is that the darkness comes so early here in Maine.  It seems like yesterday that it was light till 9 at night.  Now I struggle to leave work before dark now.  As soon as the sky starts to darken, I feel that it is time to get ready for bed, which makes me much less productive since there are so few daylight hours right now.  I am definitely not looking forward to winter when it is completely dark by 4PM.  Yuck!

For now I will just enjoy what daylight hours we have available, which is now at 11 hours.

As for our weekend plans, I feel like cleaning - did I really write that?  I guess what I mean is that I need to clean and organize before winter sets in.  Need to work on the flower beds and pull in all the outdoor items and put them into the barn.  I think I may leave the clothes line up for a while since I love the smell of laundry dried outside.

Hope y'all have a great rest of the week!  Enjoy the Fall!

~ Debbie ~

Tuesday, October 12, 2010

Look at this wonderful giveaway!

If you are a fan of the Official Preppy Handbook and it's sequel True Prep - you are going to just love this giveaway from a fabulous blog ~ The Preppy Princess ~

Be sure to visit The Preppy Princess here for all the details on how to enter! 

Here’s the items to be given away:

I know that I have my fingers crossed for this one!  Good luck everyone!

PS - I know you will LOVE her blog so be sure to look around The Preppy Princess while you are there getting the info on how to enter this giveaway!

Enjoy ~ Debbie 

Monday, October 11, 2010

This I believe

Each and every one of us teach others how to treat us on a daily basis.

By taking control and modifying your own behaviors and attitudes, you can begin to teach the people in your life what behaviors you will and will not accept. 

What an empowering action.

Our behaviors and actions have taught people what we expect and what we feel we deserve.

A few examples of this behavior:
  • If you ask someone to be honest with you and subsequently become defensive when they do, what happens? Your action (or reaction) might train someone to be dishonest with you.
  • By not speaking up to bad behavior or allowing inappropriate behavior to continue in your presence, you are teaching those around you that it is okay with you to continue behaving badly toward or around you.  
The first step towards changing the way others treat you is to show them how you want to be treated.  

Decide today what lessons you want to put out there in the world—in your universe—so that you can transform your life and transform your relationships.

We all have heard of the Golden Rule, "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you".  The same applies when you are working to improve how you are treated by others.  

When in doubt, put yourself in the other person's shoes and analyze your actions. Don’t do anything you would be offended by. If you use this litmus test and keep the best of intentions, training others can be a learning process that improves your environment while transforming your life.

Pass this lesson on to those in need - practice this daily - teach others how to respect themselves as well as others!

Happy Monday  ~Debbie~ 

Saturday, October 9, 2010

Promised Picture - BFF's

Here is the promised picture of Diane and I at Supper last night!

We are at our normal Friday meeting place ~ The Far East.  

A few extra pictures were taken, but didn't turn out so good.  I will add them just because I don't have many pictures of Diane and I together.  If only I would learn how to use Photo Shop and fix my blurry pictures.  Here you go...

Can you tell that I was trying to point out where the camera was located on my phone?
Have a GREAT weekend!  ~Debbie~


Friday, October 8, 2010

344 Visitors...Just wondering who is visiting...

It is surprising to me that as of right now I have had a total of 344 visitors.  I am also pretty nosy and would love to know who is checking out my blog. 

I know who some of you are - for example:
Diane - my BFF visits often and I am sure she is also checking to see if I have posted anymore pictures of her - which I know she hates.
Susan G. - visits pretty often. Susan is a friend from 1st -12th grade.  I actually still have a picture of us that was in the Beckley, WV newspaper when we were in 6th grade together.  We had just won first (Susan) and second (me) place in an oration contest on Building Family Unity sponsored by the National Woodmen of America.  Wow, that brings back memories.
My Aunt Chris and Uncle Wade visits weekly to keep caught up on how John and I are doing.
My brother John visits once in awhile to check in with his little sister.

What I would love to know - is who else has visited, where you are from and maybe even something about yourself.

Feel free to leave me a comment and share some information about yourself.  Also, if you have a blog - I would love to check it out!

I hope you all have a wonderful weekend!

Enjoy ~  Debbie

Wednesday, October 6, 2010

Tired of RUDE People!

More and more often, it seems, we are being subjected to rude people.  It doesn't take long to observe numerous examples of rude behavior - just stop what you are doing in any public place and listen and observe.  I have to admit that I am shocked by this behavior on a daily basis.  When did being rude become acceptable behavior?

Looking for information pertaining to rude behavior, I found the following article at,2933,54871,00.html  regarding rude behavior in the workplace. 

A study published in the 2000 issue of Organizational Dynamics found 12 percent of those interviewed had quit a job because of rudeness in the office. Another 22 percent intentionally worked less hard because of the rudeness of bosses or co-workers, and 53 percent said they lost work worrying about past or potential rude interactions.
"Incivility has diminished morale, reduced efficiency and loyalty and, let's not forget the bottom line, profits," Giovinella Gonthier, president of Chicago-based Civility Associates, said. "It's a big problem, and it's permeated the business world."
Gonthier is author of a book called Rude Awakenings: Overcoming the Civility Crisis in the Workplace, which lists among the Top 10 most common complaints: Not holding a door open for other people; not greeting or acknowledging greetings from people in the hallway; people who don't wait for others to leave an elevator before entering themselves; and women who leave their restrooms in complete shambles.
"The last 15 or 20 years, the corporate world has spent millions of dollars on training people to work with machines and software, but humanware skills have been totally neglected," Gonthier said. "People can work effectively with machines but not with each other."
Marjorie Brody, president of Philadelphia-based Brody Communications and author of Help! Was That a Career Limiting Move? and Professional Impressions: Etiquette for Everyone, Every Day, also places the blame partially on the dot-com bubble.
"There were a lot of young people in the workplace who didn't understand the protocol of behavior," she said. "They walked out of school and were suddenly vice presidents driving their BMWs, and they were not stuck in the old ways. So we got an influx of a lot of young people with a lot of money in a hurry."
She said more and more people in the office are late for appointments, deceptive, cluttering up other people's physical and personal space, leaving on cell phones, and speaking too loudly. And it's been taking a toll.
"You spend more awake time in your office with your colleagues than you do at home with your family," she said. "You have to find ways to work together, or work will suffer."
Her solution? Spread the niceness. If a single person is civil to another, the recipient of that kindness will go out and be polite to the next, and so on, she said.
Gonthier said that, in addition to genuine niceness, people also need to call rude co-workers on their impoliteness or it may never stop.
"People are rude because they can be," she said. "It's that simple."

Wouldn't it be wonderful if spreading the niceness truly was the easy answer?

Keep working on the Random Act of Kindness List - It certainly can't hurt when working with rude people!

Monday, October 4, 2010

No Skippin Monday

Now I think I remember why I do not post very often on Monday.   

I am so tired! 

I started yawning at work around 3:30 PM - even in front of people.  
I have not stopped yawning yet.  
I actually left work only a little late and arrived home at decent time.  
I walked the dogs, ate supper and have since been sitting right here waiting till a respectable time to call it a night and to go to bed.  
Hmmm, maybe I just need an extra coffee on Mondays.  
Short post tonight - I am going to go to bed early.

Night all!